“I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.” My friend’s father used to say that all the time. He was in his mid-40s. “我還不知道自己長大了想干什么?！蔽遗笥训睦习忠郧翱傔@么說。他已經人到中年了。?

A lot of people live their lives having no clue what they want. They usually follow the American Dream without a second thought, just because that’s what’s expected of them. 很多人渾渾噩噩過日子，不清楚自己想要什么。他們通常想都不想就追隨所謂的“美國夢”，因為這就是他們被寄予的期望。

?If you ask me, that’s a pretty lousy way to live your life. At the risk of sounding cheesy, I’d like to point out that you have only one life; make the most out of it and do things that make you happy. And you should start right now! 在我看來，這種生活方式很不好。雖然聽上去俗套，但我還是想說：人只有這一輩子，何不盡情享受并努力過得開開心心呢？而且，你現(xiàn)在就可以開始！?

If you don’t know what you really want in life, you’re not alone. Thousands, if not millions, of people wander the earth every day without a quest. If you don’t want to spend your life wandering aimlessly, you can use the following 7 tips to find out exactly what you want in life. 其實，不只是你不清楚自己真正想要什么，成千上萬個人每天都在茫然度日。如果你不想毫無目標地混日子，那就試試下面7個貼士，弄清自己在生活中想要什么吧。?

1. Be selfish 自私一點 You can’t pinpoint exactly what you want in life if you’re constantly sacrificing your time and dreams for other people. You have to put yourself first. Ask yourself: If you weren’t tied down by your job, family, friends, or anything else, then what would you be doing right now? Always remember that it’s okay to put yourself first, because if you don’t, then no one else will.?

如果你總為他人犧牲時間和夢想，那你很難準確發(fā)掘自己的真正渴望。你得先把自己放在卓絕位。捫心自問：如果不受工作、家庭、朋友或其他羈絆，那你現(xiàn)在可能在干什么？請記?。耗憧梢詢?yōu)先考慮自己，因為除你之外，再也沒有人會這么對你了。?

2. Regret nothing 永不后悔 Don’t feel bad for being selfish. It’s your life. It’s time for you to live it exactly the way you want to. If you constantly regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, then you won’t be able to move forward. Don’t live in the past. Live in the present…and the future! 不要因為自私一點而感到不安。這是你的人生，你應該按自己的意愿去生活。要是總為過去的事后悔，那你會很難繼續(xù)前行。不要沉溺于往事。活在當下，看向未來！?

3. Figure out what you need 明白你需要什么 Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you need. Sit down and think about what you need the most. Is it your family? The freedom to express yourself? Love? Financial security? Something else? If it helps, you can make a list of priorities. Also think about the kind of legacy you want to leave behind.?

有時要明白自己需要什么并不容易。

請坐下來仔細想想你更需要什么：家庭、自由表達自己、關愛、經濟安全，抑或其他？可行的話，你可以列一張次序清單。另外，也考慮一下自己希望留下什么遺產。